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Your worst fear?.. Its true?.. Budgets getting slashed?... New projects getting shelve?.. projects being re-evaluated?.. your renewal left hanging in the air?..

Feeling ==>CAUTIOUS, UNCERTAIN, UNDECIDED

Something is not quite right but not sure
where to start?

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and you feel
  • angry - personal needs and boundaries not being expressed at work
  • disturbed - forced to breach own integrity to stay in the loop
  • worried - feeling future work choices drying up
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  • Search and Destroy - hidden feeling of intimidation, limitation
  • Immunize against - external negative onslaught
  • Recover from - a fall
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Contract Expiry

Pushing My Buttons

I DO take it personal and nothing I do stops it.

This is a common problem that centers around passive/assertiveness that is perhaps better addressed using the power of assertiveness.

So feel free to
even if not available.
Simply describe your situation then lets talk about it.

GET CLEAR

Lets examine the full entrails (of power vent) and

GET THE FACTS

[1] Career Question
[2] Self
[3] Situation
[4] Challenge/Opportunity
[5] Foundation
[6] Recent Past
[7] Higher Self
[8] Near Future
[9] Blocks/Inhibitions
[10] Allies
[11] Advice
[12] Ultimate Vision


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Preparing to move

The decision has been made by you (OR for you)

and now need to prepare a list of tasks to ensure a smooth move.

So feel free to
even if not available.
Simply describe your situation then lets talk about it.

Leaving a Contract

This brings forth a sharp "pang" because leaving friends is never fun... not even for a contractor.. who learns to 'compartmentalize' feelings like grief, loss,concern AND PAIN... as they SAY GOODBYE to 'OTHERS' STILL on the PROJECT... to whom they HAVE PROVEN their WORTH and earned their ACCEPTANCE... that they will now need to build all over again

OR perhaps you are leaving on LESS than favorable terms and you don't wish to have that follow you on to your next contract.

Experience shows it is far healthier to welcome the discomfort in a simple, light grieving process in order to release, and let go and thereby clear your path in order to move forward into your next contract with nothing held back.

Step 1. SCAN the "ISSUE" column.... for 'uncomfortable' feelings like:
Concern - about what next
Discomfort - about leaving familiarity
Grief - leaving others behind
Annoyed - about the way it always is
Angry - about why you
Step 2. Press VIEW
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Starting New Contract

This brings forth a MIXED bag of:

euphoria, relief AND apprehension... as you MEET with 'OTHERS' on the PROJECT... to whom you must PROVE your WORTH all over AGAIN.

Step 1. SCAN the "ISSUE" column.... for 'uncomfortable' feelings like:
Concern - about what next
Discomfort - about not meeting expectations
Guilty - caught out on something you exaggerated a little in interview
Overwhelmed - about the size of the task, the lack of support and time to do it in
Annoyed - about the lack of documentation, standards, clarity, direction
Angry - about the contract brief being so unclear
Step 2. Press VIEW
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Contract Expiring

and a time to notice the conflict and turmoil that begin to arise

Step 1. SCAN the "ISSUE" column... for 'disturbing' feelings like:
Concern - about what next
Discomfort - about leaving
Hurt - about not getting selected
Angry - about how you were treated
Guilty - about not meeting expectations
Procrastinating - about getting resume updated

Step 2. Press VIEW
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Contract Renewal

this brings forth its own set of 'unexpected' dis-satisfactions... that should be clearly aired... or risk the cost of 'unexpressed' harboured 'resentment' that will not serve the client, the contractor, nor the recruiter in the long run..

Step 1. SCAN the "ISSUE" column... for 'unexpressed' feelings like:
Discomfort - around requesting another rate increase
Annoyed - about the high margin
Resentment - around being 'taken advantage of'
Step 2. Press VIEW
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Interview

for some it's celebration.... but for many it brings about discomfort and anxiety around "Making a Mistake", "Not Being Good Enough", "Not being Important"

Step 1. SCAN the "ISSUE" column for feelings like:
Concern - about what to expect
Discomfort - about potentially being rejected
Guilty - about a thing you may have exaggerated a little
Overwhelmed - by the panel of interviewers before you
Annoyed - about the contract brief being so brief
Angry - about having to put yourself through this all the time
Step 2. Press VIEW
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Between Contracts

Caught "Between Contracts" in economic conditions like now fires off deep uncertainties...

A contractor once said she calculated that procrastinating while between contracts during 2008 COST her around $13,000

Step 1. SCAN the "ISSUE" column... for feelings ranging from from:
Concern - about your future
Discomfort - about potentially being overlooked
Annoyed - about the contract not being renewed when so inconvenient now
Angry - they extended some who were far less experience qualified than you
Step 2. Press VIEW
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HELP

IS JUST 15 MINUTES AWAY

So feel free to
even if not available.
Simply describe your situation then lets talk about it.

Reset your COMPASS

Your VALUES are your COMPASS...

You USE a compass to NAVIGATE

A properly set compass pulls you forward.. and a poorly set compass has you exhausting yourself pushing yourself forward.

Right now you need to USE your COMPASS to NAVIGATE through your immediate contracting environment... to EVALUATE.. to make a DECISION... to ACT on your RESOLVE.

WHEN
was the last time you re-assessed your VALUES (around Contracting) and your RULES for triggering them?

WHEN
was the last time you triggered them? Were your towards rules too complex? Were your away rules too easy? Were you too often left you negative? Were you too often left you massively conflicted in hopeless irreconcilable, unresolvable indecision?

WHAT
3 day process do you have in place to CONDITION your NEW values with TARGETED INTENSITY so they GROW while your old values shrivel through LACK of use.

If it was me I would not hesitate

Help is just 15 minutes away.



So feel free to
even if not available.
Simply describe your situation then lets talk about it.

Power Vent

OR... you are simply angry and pissed off and you need to vent somewhere...

NOTE:
There is NOTHING wrong with venting.. indeed its healthy because it lets you dump it all out of the head on onto a page WHERE YOU CAN then ADDRESS a SOLUTION and a PLAN from the entrails.

WHAT IS unhealthy and TOXIC is JUST venting and NOT doing anything with it.

WHAT IS MOST unhealthy is LEAVING it IN there.. churning, stewing, feeding back even MORE vitreole. THIS is the stuff that kills AND gets you nowhere.





So feel free to
even if not available.
Simply describe your situation then lets talk about it.
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